How many Kids do you have?

This is a seemingly innocuous question to most but to someone that has had a miscarriage, it is excruciating. I have been asked this a lot in the last month since my m/c and I'm never sure how to answer this: Do I say 2 for my girls Chloe and Caitlyn, Do I say 3 to include my child that I will never see this side of heaven, Do I say 2 and a miscarriage?? While I want to avoid making others uncomfortable, I still want to honor my child.

If/When we get pregnant again, medically it would be our 4th pregnancy and 3rd live birth (if the baby goes to term and is healthy and alive at delivery). So when people ask if it is my first do I just say it is my 4th or my 3rd?

So many things to consider, this is what goes through my head when I hear this question...